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|Date:||2/6/2005 10:45:40 PM|
|Subject:||Story and prayer request|
This is Marty's eldest troublemaker -- errr, I mean, daughter -- with a story and a prayer request.
Right now I'm kicking off my career in a job I lovelovelove. My program works with women who are currently pregnant, have already had at least one child, and who are in very stressful life situations. Even though I do help my clients figure out how to access community resources, make sense of the US health care system and such, the bulk of my work deals with addressing the women's emotional needs and helping them start to feel attached to their baby during pregnancy. Emotionally attached, that is.
One of my clients happens to be a refugee who has survived war, if not genocide. She has emerged from the terrifying situation in her home country with incredible empathy . . . and just about every major, scary health condition that I associate with the extreme poverty in the part of the world where she comes from. When I asked her what she wants the most, she did not say better health or financial security or a nicer apartment or anything else that so many people seem to want. More than anything else, she said, "I want my baby to be born alive and healthy."
The other day I did a cheesy intervention with that woman to help her remember the good things about her childhood and let go of the hurtful parts of her life as a child. I brought six sticks to our session that day -- three sticks to symbolize three positive things she wants to remember about her childhood and create for her own baby-to-be, and the remaining sticks to represent three hurtful things she experienced as a child and never wants her baby to experience. She made a triangle from the 3 "positive" sticks and will use the stick triangle to decorate her baby's room. As she broke the 3 "hurtful" sticks, I invited her to let go of those old hurts for her own sake and for that of her baby.
The breaking of the "hurtful" sticks itself was not quite the cathartic thing I had hoped it would be for her. After she broke them, we both looked down at the little pile of sticks in silence. I could tell she was about to say something profound, as she so often does, so I braced myself for it. She broke the silence by telling me gently, "When I want to get rid of my hurt, I use prayer . . . not sticks!"
We looked down at the pile of sticks and laughed, and I told her it's wonderful that she deals with her hurt the way she does. After all, it was prayer, not stick breaking, that helped her make it this far. I asked her about how she prays. Then I asked if anyone she knows of is praying for her and the baby. Her pastor is, she said. Although she didn't say so directly, I got the strong impression she was silently wishing that more people would join them in praying for her and her baby. So I asked her if she would like anyone else to pray for them. Eye contact is pretty hit-and-miss with this client, but when I asked her that, she looked me right in the eye and said, "Yes. I want good people to pray for my baby." Not for her, you'll notice, but for her baby. That's the kind of kindness that makes it hard not to want to pray for her, too, huh?
So, good people, at this heartbreakingly strong woman's request, I invite you to join her, her pastor and me in praying for her baby.
With thanks and love,
| Story and prayer request by Jessica at 2/6/2005 10:45:40 PM|
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